Steve Pavlina writes a great article on how to deal with negative thoughts that are holding you back. One of the ways he suggests is to stop complaining and observe your negative thoughts. Then, start accepting more responsibility for what you experience (ie, if I’m unhappy, it’s because I’m creating it) because

“Complaining is the denial of responsibility. And blame is just another way of excusing yourself from being responsible.”

He’s got a previous post on how the act of complaining keeps you stuck within your own negative reality that’s also a good read. Here’s an excerpt:

People who complain trap themselves in a reality that constantly gives them more to complain about.  Life keeps harshing on them.  Their luck is below average.  They never get any real breaks.  Unfortunate circumstances, seemingly beyond their control, keep manifesting.  It seems totally unfair, but it isn’t.  The complainers are merely witnessing the fulfillment of their own requests.  Every thought is an intention, and complainers habitually intend what they don’t want.  So it makes perfect sense they live in a reality congruent with those thoughts.  The complainer may tell you their reality is causing their complaints, but it’s more accurate to say their reality is reflecting their complaints.

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